Whine, Whine, Whine... why are there always men on here whining about paying for their own kids Child Support?

i dont get it, some even (cant add) want to know where the money goes. ARE THEY KIDDING? Someone please tell me how its possible that some cant add living expenses, daycare, insurance, over the counter medicine, dental, school supplies, class trips, laundry det, lunches, etc?

Whine, Whine, Whine... why are there always men on here whining about paying for their own kids Child Support?
I hear you loud and clear, and I have always wondered the same thing, about many deadbeat dads, and even some of the dads who do pay, but still do not include themselves in their childs lives. No, one should be "court ordered" to pay child support and its sad that some men have to be court ordered to support "their" child", it should be something they "want" to do because its their child too. I understand that divorce happens, and for whatever reason and no matter who is to blame, that does not take away the fact that there is a child to support, and not just financially, but emotional support, partaking in the upbringing and sharing good times and sad times, and just being involved. Some think that becase they pay what they have to, or or ordered to, that is enough, well its not. Now, my turn, I am a single father with two girls, and I finally had to get my ex's wages garnished just for any kind of support, she carried them and had them, and now she is free and loose to do anything she wants and be with anyone she wants with no responsibilities, well. I am a man, and these are my girls, and I will never give up on them, until the Good Lord sees to take me. Lastly, all children have "no fault" in being here, we made that choice for them, so its up to us to provide the best enviroment for them. Too bad many people don't see it that way.
Reply:I give up. Not all men are that way.





It's like saying, "Whine, whine whine. Why are there *always* women on here complaining about the loser they married and are now divorced from? Are they so stupid they didn't know he was a loser before they married him and let him knock them up a few times? Someone please explain to me how it's possible that someone can't figure out a guy is an abusive loser before they get married and start popping out his loser kids."





The "always" part and the "women" part are no less sweeping and condemning and inflammatory than your post. Get it?
Reply:Girl I feel you on that one!! Its their kids, those kids are their flesh and blood and they dont even want to support their own kids. They need to get a clue and grow up, and wise up. They need to step up and be real men and handle their business. If they didnt want kids then why didnt they keep mr.willy in their pants or use protection???The mother cant do everything and it takes 2 parents to raise a child. I dont understand men like that. Men like that are just worthless. They have no clue how expensive kids are.
Reply:i think sometimes men think that if they don't have the child, they shouldn't have to pay. but do they want the child? many don't. some do and they loose custody anyway. if you want to play, you have to pay.
Reply:I think that a few women have made it difficult for men to think about the actual things that need to be taken into consideration for the child. Some women, spend it on themselves, pedicures, manicures and other stuff. That child may never see that money.





I think that it depends on the situation and what the women is really doing with the money. But, on the other hand, there are some men out there, who just wanna have their fun and not take care of their responsibilities. I guess that is why the relationship didn't work out to begin with. What else is to be expected.
Reply:i worked two jobs to make sure my kids had enough,,all my ex wanted was to sit on her butt ,watch soap oprea,and eat ding-dongs..not whineing i love my kids!!!!!
Reply:I agree with you girl...... Men get on my nerves... We didn't hop on ourselves and get pregnant... So we shouldn't have to pay by ourselves.. Kids are expensive, and 99% of the time what they pay doesn't even cover all the expenses.. Let along we deal with our children alone when they're sick, tired, whinny, hateful, all the attitudes that come with it.. I wouldn't b*tch about shedding out some money, because that's all they have to deal with...
Reply:The one who breaks up the family (unless the undisputed abuse) should have to take the children and pay for all expenses related to the children. I think that would reduce the divorce rate tremendously. No alimony, child support, etc.


Woman should stop taking there husbands money (in the form of alimony altogether).


Come on ladies take care of yourselves, like we do.
Reply:I had that problem until I sent the kids to him and NOW he understands the stress and financial burden of caring for three children on his own AND working with no one at home to help. He finally gets the "second shift" concept about how his day is only half done when he gets home from work and has to make dinner, do homework, wash clothes, clean, etc.. He actually called me and apologized for all the years he left it all for me to do.





Hey, I did it for 16 years all by myself, working full-time and taking care of every single domestic and child-related issue. All he did was come home when he wanted to for sex, his dinner and for his clean clothes. Oh, sure, maybe he said hi to the kids now and then, but he didn't know anything about them. HE DOES NOW!





Payback is a *****!
Reply:I don't get it eiether....my ex now owes me over $15,000..........child support enforcement will catch up to him, eventually...................





not paying support equals "neglect"





Neglect is not love!
Reply:If they are like me, they have no problem supporting their child. They simply resent having their child taken from them by an unfaithful or ungrateful spouse when they are willing to be the custodial parent, and allow them to have visitation.





It's the knowing that the money is NOT being used for taking care of the child, but for romancing the affair partner, and the system will get all over a non-custodial dad if he doesn't pay, but does nothing to check to see if mom is using that money for the child.





Yeah, that about covers it.
Reply:Some women want to take everything %26amp; let the x go to a homeless shelter. Other women get new boyfriends, move them into the house the ex helped pay for %26amp; she parties on the support $ instead of spending it on her kids. The few mom's that do this make life h-e-l-l for the good moms.


Not everything can be blamed on a man.


There are also deadbeats (mom's and dad's)who just don't care.