I dated this guy, who, of course, I thought was nice -- at first I did anyways. (Sorry this Q is so long.)?

He has three kids, all great. The only place he we go is the local coffee shop. I was buying groceries for his kids, taking them out for ice cream, etc. Things he wouldn't do. He would go out to breakfast by himself every morning and leave the kids home to eat toast, which I bought. He doesn't help kids mother with their dental bills, buying school clothes or supplies, haircuts, etc. Thinks he does his part by having them at his house Friday, Saturday and Sunday. He had TiVo installed so that was the end of any sort of social life. Of course I left him. Now he's going around telling mutual friends that I was just using him!! His kids still call me and we still get together without him. He he found out about and has forbidden his children to have any contact with me. Their mother doesn't have a problem with it. She appreciates the relationship we have.


Should I back out of the picture completely or would it be okay to maintain my friendship with his kids?

I dated this guy, who, of course, I thought was nice -- at first I did anyways. (Sorry this Q is so long.)?
These children have formed a bond with you. It would be cruel to simply back out. If you want to distance yourself from the, do it slowly so that they won't suffer from the separation. You sound like a terrific person. Good luck.
Reply:girl if he doesn't have a relationship with the kids and the mother doesn't mind don't back of the kids life because of him. just show the kids that they can count on you. don't let them think he is the reason for you leaving them too.
Reply:keep being friends with his kids, definitely!
Reply:obviously you've built up your relationship with them, why stop it.... he seems like a dead beat dad so he should just get over it
Reply:Well, it's like wat they say, the children are our future. if their mother is ok w/ it, then u should definately keep in contact w/ them. u shouldnt bak down just cuz a guy tells u to. u obviously love them w/ all ur heart. (%26amp; just for the record, he was soooooo obviously using u) don't let anything bring u down frm doing wat u want. it's also obvious that he doesnt care about his children %26amp; rather leave them to some1 else in order to do HIS stuff. so go on. just listen to ur concience. trust me, it works. ur concience tells u wat to do.